There are so many questions when it comes to weddings and the shower. Who pays for what, who throws the shower, who does this and that? Here is a quick guide to help with all those “fun” questions!
First off — Who is supposed to throw the wedding shower? Traditionally, it is supposed to be the maid of honor or the bridesmaids. But in today’s times, lets be honest most of us are all broke. We are all starting out in our “new” lives as adults. Who can swing a shower in these times?! It is still proper if the mother of the bride and mother of the groom to give a shower for their children! Any one is welcome to pitch in or even throw the shower such as, grandparents, aunts, cousins, friends, excreta. If you chose to have a bridal luncheon at a restaurant the hostess needs to foot the bill, it would be very tacky to make each guest pay their own meal — no matter if its a second or even a third marriage.
As the bride, make sure you thank the people who give your shower. Maybe a small gift would be nice, such as flowers or a lunch together, but even more cherished would be a hand written letter that is very heartfelt.
Some brides are very particular when it comes to all their wedding plans, this includes their shower as well. Listen to the bride, and if there are some things she does not want then go with her wishes. If she is getting married for the second time and she would not like another shower, maybe the bridal party could spend a day together at a spa or go on a relaxing vacation or just out on the town for a night. But, do something special for the bride — don’t let her go unnoticed before her big day!
The invitations need to be mailed out a month or six weeks in advanced before the shower. Showers are meant to be for the brides closest friends and family, every shower guest needs to be invited to the wedding. Its customary for shower guests to bring gifts, its just not appropriate to invite people who you do not plan to include on your wedding day.
Even though this isn’t etiquette, but some traditions have been passed down from the elders, such as making a bouquet out of the ribbons and bows from the gifts from the shower and using it as the brides bouquet at the wedding rehearsal. So check with the bride and ask her if there is anything else she would love to do for her wedding or the shower that would make her day that much more special.
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